tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post3588712944827063039..comments2023-11-03T09:07:11.559-06:00Comments on Depressed (but not unhappy) Mormon Mommy: Hurry Up and Slow Down: Validating My Irritable UterusLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08214008384316494193noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-75235909857323775672010-03-30T10:50:57.445-06:002010-03-30T10:50:57.445-06:00REST!!! REST!!!
I had "busyness syndrome&qu...REST!!! REST!!!<br /><br />I had "busyness syndrome" and "irritable uterus" syndrome for my first two babies... resulting in preeclampsia and an early birth for the first one.<br /><br />The third came years later, when #1 and #2 were in school... during the first trimester, after everyone left in the morning, do you know what I did? Slept on the couch! All day, breaking only for lunch!<br /><br />Turned out to be my healthiest pregnancy. Second trimester I was "nesting" and cleaning like crazy. Third trimester I napped, and put my feet up a lot, but I walked every day, too. Baby was full-term, big, and healthy at birth.<br /><br />I know you have two little ones at home during the day, but what about playdates (where you drop them off and go home and nap)? Mother's Day Out? Or the hotel idea... just REST! You'll feel TONS better!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-21124028530132701902010-03-28T14:37:05.034-06:002010-03-28T14:37:05.034-06:00Whew! Just reading your post makes me tired! BTW...Whew! Just reading your post makes me tired! BTW, hi! This is your cousin-in-law Emily. I started reading your blog a few weeks ago and am really enjoying it, so I decided to stop lurking. Anyway if you need to hear it again, REST! Doctor's orders. :) I also enjoyed your thoughtful commentary on the need that some stay-at-home moms have to validate their choices. I can't speak to that, not being a mom. I can, however, speak to the other side. There is a blog I read called www.mothersinmedicine.com about just that - mothers in medicine, and the many struggles they have juggling both jobs. I think women feel the need to be validated no matter what their choices are. Anywho, Good luck with moving and resting and having your baby soon!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03909276705740720336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-6745039039402719302010-03-25T08:03:15.277-06:002010-03-25T08:03:15.277-06:00I've been thinking about this post and decided...I've been thinking about this post and decided it was time to quit lurking and leave a comment! Get some rest!! You have doctors telling you to do it, so do it!! I don't think we should work to the point of weariness, except in times of great distress (and no, being a mom isn't one of those times). I haven't struggled with depression nearly as long as you have, but when I finally confronted the fact that I was, my therapist said something that really helped me to change my thinking when she told me that I was ill, and I should expect to take awhile to get better and that I should take care of myself as though I had just recovered from something like pneumonia. When I get tired, I try not to do the guilt thing, but just tell myself, "you need the rest, you've been ill". And I discovered that I really feel better when I'm not tired. Sure there are "super moms" but who wants to be one of those?? There are plenty who turn on Nick Jr. and nap on the couch and feed their kids microwave chicken nuggets - and their kids are still happy and healthy. The important thing is that you take care of your health and don't worry about justifying your choices. Yea! for a baby who wants you to slow down. Hang in there! And thanks for sharing your journey.Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11490727625082003162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-33879770249071124512010-03-24T19:11:23.150-06:002010-03-24T19:11:23.150-06:00Before I saw the other comments, I was scrolling d...Before I saw the other comments, I was scrolling down to say that I honestly believe that some moms fill their life to the brim so they don't have time to think. Then BAM! One of the commentors actually said that! Awesome am I.<br /><br />I quit going to certain playgroups because of the cattiness. I can't stomach it. Especially when in the fog and I can barely do anything at all, much less "compete".Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12485758930283919361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-83900798202366390992010-03-24T18:26:59.135-06:002010-03-24T18:26:59.135-06:00(I realize I will be struck by lightening any day ...(I realize I will be struck by lightening any day now)...but that scripture "don't run faster than you have strength," I always (in my head) follow it with "but you better be running." <br />I am one of those people who thinks I have to do it all and feel so tired trying. I am slowly learning to let things go, but it is hard to change my thinking.<br /><br />Thanks always for voicing your thoughts and helping some of us know we are not alone!sarah louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736564557475772430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-30952718397925019892010-03-23T21:43:44.520-06:002010-03-23T21:43:44.520-06:00I am the ultra-competitive mom. And probably proud...I am the ultra-competitive mom. And probably proud of it. But thanks for the honesty of your posts. And now that school is cancelled tomorrow, if you need some sleep, you have me (or many other friends) who would happily take the kiddos so you really can get some rest. Just call!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09350680422969568303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-70310750230011179582010-03-23T20:59:56.761-06:002010-03-23T20:59:56.761-06:00This is one of the reasons I am grateful that I ha...This is one of the reasons I am grateful that I have fibromyalgia. I really CAN'T do everything, so I started having to evaluate what I really could do. Turns out not much. And then it turns out that my home was filled with the Spirit anyway, even with the messy floors, dishes in the sink, and half-dressed kids.<br /><br />I do feel bad when people look into my front door and refuse to enter the house. And when babysitters refuse to come back because of the mess. <br /><br />But, over the years, I've learned not to feel bad for everything that wasn't getting done. In fact, I discovered that not even trying to do it all makes me happy.<br /><br />And then I discovered that a happy woman makes a better wife and mother.<br /><br />So now I always put myself first. It's a favor to everyone else.Becca Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177698452364502845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-31299136621840521432010-03-23T15:20:39.096-06:002010-03-23T15:20:39.096-06:00I wish you could truly understand how much what yo...I wish you could truly understand how much what you say voices exactly how I feel. It's been almost 25 years since I had a baby, but I STILL haven't been able to get enough rest. My whole life revolves around working, serving, preparing, and listening to everyone else. <br /><br />I am, like you, depressed, but not unhappy. When you write these kinds of things you seriously make ME feel validated. <br /><br />I wish I knew how to change things to make life easier, but I don't. I'd certainly share if I had any answers.<br /><br />I'm awfully glad you're giving in and getting some rest. I think you deserve it!Sushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03585600908253437884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-85484709935889568732010-03-23T15:07:14.586-06:002010-03-23T15:07:14.586-06:00This is the viewpoint of an old lady who has been ...This is the viewpoint of an old lady who has been there and done that (although not NEARLY to the extent that you have), and the wisdom of my years says, "For goodness' sake, girl, take a nap!" For years I thought I couldn't rest until EVERYTHING WAS DONE. Listen, everything is never going to be done and doesn't have to be. I'm right behind Heathie. There is no guilt in taking care of your mind and body. That is a good thing you should not be weary in doing well, just taking care of yourself. God bless you and comfort you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-63087046889757773562010-03-23T13:42:11.540-06:002010-03-23T13:42:11.540-06:00I saw a link to your blog on my friend's blog....I saw a link to your blog on my friend's blog. Can I just say, I am so impressed! Thank you for being so refreshingly honest, uplifting and clear minded. You inspire me.Marindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00042465500223099950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-77939833689684569732010-03-23T11:53:21.523-06:002010-03-23T11:53:21.523-06:00I validate YOU, for sure. For me, I put off sleep...I validate YOU, for sure. For me, I put off sleeping and resting because that is when I start to think, think about my depression. My coping mechanism is to be so busy I CAN'T think about being depressed and figuratively painting myself into a corner so I almost have to collapse before I will rest. You might want to examine the words "be not weary in well doing" like I did as I read your blog. I doubt our pioneer ancestors would look at our lives and want us to serve in weariness. I know I often do though. It has been my experience that when my mind and heart don't give me permission to recover from weariness, my body forces me to through illness or even injury - like tripping down the stairs when I am hurrying. I hope your body, mind, and heart can agree and give yourself some refreshing, replenishing rest. (I'm preaching to myself too.)Diannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09344532117266689760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-33076609713639116992010-03-23T11:52:01.584-06:002010-03-23T11:52:01.584-06:00[I like this] :)
I don't want to scripture bas...[I like this] :)<br />I don't want to scripture bash or anything, but there's also a verse that says "don't run faster than you have strength." It seems like it contradicts not being weary of doing good, but I feel like the weary they're talking about is less physical and more of an attitude thing. <br />On the mission, they always told us, "Work hard, but DON'T wear yourself out. Your own health is priority." Because without it, you can't do anything for anyone else. Even now I try to stick with that advice when I can. It's hard to find a good 8 hour chunk of sleep as a mom, but in my mind that's what the "educational" shows are for: "Sit here for a couple shows, kids; Mom needs a nap." :)Heathiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217039046182434495noreply@blogger.com