tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post4153428581690441094..comments2023-11-03T09:07:11.559-06:00Comments on Depressed (but not unhappy) Mormon Mommy: "It's Just Too Hard" : a rebuke, a problem, a lesson, and a goalLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08214008384316494193noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-72702537658048466182010-03-15T16:38:11.078-06:002010-03-15T16:38:11.078-06:00wow! You have said just what I feel. I have recent...wow! You have said just what I feel. I have recently weaned myself off of depression medicine and now I am thinking I still need something because I can't seem to handle even the little thinks anymore. I feel the gentle rebuke almost daily and I am so very greatful for the scriptures that you have included in your post. I can't say that all my "problems" will go away now that I have read your post but I can more clearly understand them. Thank you and God bless you.hobbsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07511023868282447618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-57257394197654480852010-01-08T17:54:22.431-07:002010-01-08T17:54:22.431-07:00It's interesting I happened onto your blog, I ...It's interesting I happened onto your blog, I was googling apple chips, and I got you - go figure :-)<br /><br />All I can think to say first are the lyrics to a song from the 60's, you are surely too young to remember, but here they go... <br /><br />Slow down, you move too fast.<br />You got to make the morning last.<br />Just kicking down the cobble stones.<br />Looking for fun and feelin' groovy.<br /><br />"59th St. Bridge Song" lyrics, by artists Simon and Garfunkel."<br /><br />Granted, you felt a nudge from the Spirit, but Satan also chimes in on our short-comings to overwhelm us. Believe me, I've got it down to a science, LOL!<br /><br />You are a young mom, I've raised 4 to adulthood; I still wonder how I managed it as well as I have.<br /><br />I too suffer diagnosed moderate to severe depression, in addition to Rheumatoid Arthritis and Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.<br /><br />How have I got to this point? Well... yes my genetics, but also heaps of S-T-R-E-S-S, piled high upon myself and the expectations of others.<br /><br />I'd sure love to see you back up a bit, particularly on "perceived" expectations from so-called LDS and RS social norms.<br /><br />I am now learning to forgive myself for being only ABLE to do what I can, and stop labeling myself so harshly for what I've literally come to disable myself (I've learned only recently) from "much" of my own doing.<br /><br />I'd so hate for you to get to the point that your body and immune system starts eventually tackling you, as hard as you try with your schedule.<br /><br />Most Warmly,<br />Sharon Anne<br />http://sharonanne.com<br /><br />P.S. I have improved so much lately (learning marvelous new skills) many which - I never had at your stage in life. I'd love to share them (privately, not publically). Or if you ever need a sympathetic ear, you can contact me through my cooking blog/website above. Plus I have my own "seeking/sharing" inspiration blog too. <br /><br />Many Blessings!Sharon Annehttp://sharealikeinspiration.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-34072558790708547202009-12-23T22:15:55.359-07:002009-12-23T22:15:55.359-07:00I'll say it again... thank you for being able ...I'll say it again... thank you for being able to verbalize exactly what I feel depression is, does, and makes of me. I don't comment often, but I am grateful for your bravery. It makes me feel less...alone.smdchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06423616896811441360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-37895355463782729742009-12-23T21:17:26.244-07:002009-12-23T21:17:26.244-07:00What a beautiful, soul baring post! I totally kno...What a beautiful, soul baring post! I totally know that feeling of not ever being able to do enough and yet thinking we're supposed to try - or at least look like we are. But as you smartly point out (and Becca reiterates) there is a difference between doing what what you are "supposed" to do and what needs to be done and what people really need - i.e. nobody needs all the VT cards & fancy meals & whatnot. Of course the thought that people just need *you* is a scary one too. Sometimes I feel like there's not even enough me for me much less anyone else. <br /><br />What I wish most for you is that you could feel God's love for you as strongly as you felt His gentle rebuke. <br /><br />And while I'm wishing... I wish you would talk to me on the phone again. I miss you! The afternoons are long without you in my ear:) <br /><br />Love you!!Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04339643338071382257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-57246122305421367602009-12-23T11:52:20.463-07:002009-12-23T11:52:20.463-07:00(And sorry about all those misspellings and typos!...(And sorry about all those misspellings and typos!)Heathiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217039046182434495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-61178643747798707792009-12-23T11:51:02.048-07:002009-12-23T11:51:02.048-07:00I love you Laura!
I feel like as members, we spend...I love you Laura!<br />I feel like as members, we spend so much (too much!) time and resources on fluff and filler. Gifts and cutesy little cards on LDS-themed stationary--it's unnecessary! And honestly, those things don't last. (All those cards and things my young women leaders put so much effort into: In the TRASH!) They don't mean nearly as much as a docrtinally based lesson, a listening ear, and a sincere desire to serve the gals you visit. That is what visiting teaching is about. That's my soap box speach for the day.<br />Pretty much amen to Becca's first few paragraphs.Heathiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217039046182434495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-10414487622510395312009-12-23T08:38:31.668-07:002009-12-23T08:38:31.668-07:00I always find so much inspiration in your posts. W...I always find so much inspiration in your posts. What a revelation! Thanks you for sharing. And, just for the record, I think you're doing great. The balancing act of life is always tricky, but it sounds like your really trying hard to make the best choices for you and your family. And that's what's important. :)Laceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04435218066530970886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1336931173750264195.post-8832904738752479902009-12-23T01:56:57.781-07:002009-12-23T01:56:57.781-07:00Wow. You looked stressed at church, but I didn'...Wow. You looked stressed at church, but I didn't know what to do!<br /><br />I'm sorry you feel overwhelmed. God doesn't expect handouts in relief society, crafts for enrichment, or cards at Visiting Teaching. In fact, I just want to see you and be near you and have your friendship--that is, in itself, a joyous and wonderful gift for me. The times you've stood and talked to me have been deeply meaningful for me. So it makes me sad that this has been a bad year for you, too.<br /><br />I think we sometimes forget that depression is a disease. Just like cancer. Do we expect people with cancer to sing in the choir and bring cards when they visit teach? NO. Do we expect them to work on the really important, eternal things? Yah, I guess we do. But so few things are eternal--family. Your relationship with God. I can't think of any more.<br /><br />We've sure struggled with the mental disorder issue here, too--it's taken years for us to accept that ADHD is like diabetes--you don't expect diabetics to tough it out. Mental disorders are just as physical as diabetes is. And learning to control it--and working on that constantly--is an important, long-term job.<br /><br />I'm glad you're doing it.<br /><br />If you ever feel down, come visit my house. You'll feel lots better--my house is a wreck, life is chaos, and we get little done (and that usually late).<br /><br /><3 for you!Becca Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177698452364502845noreply@blogger.com