My totally awesome blogger sister linked to me today. (Hi, Charlotte!) At the end of her post on the new fad of "pregorexia" she said, "We need less articles about post-partum flab and more about post-partum depression. Less about how to be a hot mommy and more about how to be a good mommy. Less about which star lost the weight the fastest and more about the stars in our eyes when we love our babies."
So here are a few words about PPD that I am glad others said to me and that I think more people need to hear:
*From my doctor, "PPD is an illness. It's not your fault. It is chemical. It's not your fault."
*From a nurse at the hospital when I asked her to hand me my pills, "Oh! I take those too. Sometimes we all need a little help."
*From my husband after I finally got treatment, "It's nice to see the woman I married. You weren't yourself before."
*From God, through the scriptures, "For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." (i.e. Through the atonement of our Savior Jesus Christ there's hope!)
And here are the things I would say:
*This is not you. You are not bad and you do love your child, despite what your brain is telling you.
*You and your child are both in the loving care of our Father in Heaven, even though you can't feel it.
*Get help. Take medicine. Talk to a doctor, a therapist, a friend. Ask for support because you will find it.
*You are not alone in this. So many of us have been there and have survived.